Emigration is a serious challenge for anyone forced to leave their homeland. The feeling of loss and grief experienced by emigrants is completely normal. Spanish psychiatrist Joseba Achotegui, who worked with migrants and refugees for many years, called this state the “Odysseus Syndrome.” It’s the feeling of being pulled back to your home, but realizing that the home you remember no longer exists. This feeling may return with varying intensity throughout your life.
Accepting the Grief
Instead of fighting this grief, it’s better to accept it as part of your experience. Accept the fact that things will never be the same as before. But your memories will stay with you forever. Reminisce about cherished moments with your family, share associations and dreams. Be thankful for all the good things that happened in your life.
Learn the New Language
Language is the key to the new culture and environment in which you find yourself. Even if you later decide to return to Ukraine, knowing the language will be a valuable experience. Learning the language can open up new opportunities and doors for you in the future.
Study History and Culture
Integration into a new society isn’t just about learning the language. Familiarize yourself with the history and culture of the country you now live in. This is a unique opportunity to learn something new in its natural environment.
Define Your Identity
Ask yourself: who are you now? For example, you could define your identity as “I am a Ukrainian who is proud of my heritage but had to move to another country due to the war.” Understanding your own identity will help you navigate through new circumstances.
Take Care of Yourself
Our perception of life is heavily influenced by basic factors. Take care of your health: get enough sleep, stay hydrated, eat well, and engage in physical activity. Hugs, walks, and gratitude for what you have will help stabilize your emotional state. It’s also important to feel part of something big and meaningful, like volunteering projects or work that brings you satisfaction.
Emigration as Motivation
Don’t view emigration only as a loss. It’s also a powerful motivation for growth, new opportunities, and self-realization. Each new day is a chance to discover something new, gain new skills, and expand your horizons.
